Get Back Your Ex By Becoming Less Available And An Increased Challenge For Her
You were a challenge for her. You had a very high appeal and she was irresistibly drawn to you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I am preparing to make a wild guess here, but is it that as time went on, you have become less and less of a challenge for her? And is it that at this time, you're absolutely no challenge for her? And that she believes if she wanted to, at any moment she could get you back again and wrapped around her little finger by simply saying the word?
Now I'm going to be crude here, nevertheless as you know, to become a challenge once more you have to prove to your ex-girlfriend that her sexuality has no control over you any more. Take into account what it's like when you are stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. And after that think of exactly what it's like when you keep on doing it (as many guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You're indicating to the woman that you're a low-value guy without any other sexual choices.
Your sweetheart will not respect you again until you refuse her influence over you. Fortunately you are doing that now by not directly corresponding with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
Make sure you stay 100% strict with your communication cut-off. You should not be "buddies" with her, simply because that rewards her with the ongoing consent of power over you while giving her a convenient reason to stay separated. (She justifies that she is letting you down easy this way, assuaging any guilt she may experience.)
On the other hand, you should definitely keep her locked in with the help of your stuff. In all likelihood lots of your belongings are at her residence, and vice versa. She could even owe you money as well. She could ask a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you would like all of it returned.
The very best reply to this is simply "No, not yet. The reason is because her possessing your stuff (and you holding onto hers) is still locking you two in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to provide her the psychological closure that would result from settling your accounts.
For the up coming 3 weeks, you have to totally recognize -- and embrace -- the fact that you're an independent man now. Take what transpired with your ex and learn from it. You've got a fantastic chance to revolutionize your life which will ultimately allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.
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